On my previous blog Singleness is not a curse or diseases, Loneliness is I discussed how loneliness is the one behind many horrible decisions we make as single individuals. This blog will discuss ways to avoid being controlled by loneliness.
To win against loneliness one must:
Firstly, LOVE YOURSELF. It is crucial to start learning about the person in the mirror. Take time studying yourself, find out what you like to do, what you like to watch, how can you become better, what changes need to be made and so on. As you learn to love yourself, enjoying your own company becomes a “Me time” rather than “no one wants to be with me time”. Sometimes we get so caught up in having company around us to a point where we feel empty when we in the midst of our own company. Once you love yourself being your own company becomes normal, you don’t feel alone or unwanted etc.
Secondly, GET HEALTHY. Most don’t see the affect their health has on them. When you choose to eat better and exercise, your confidence gets a boost. The more confident you are the more you understand that forcing people into your life and forcing yourself into relationships only bring forth bad solutions. The confidence will make you see people that are in your life as a blessing not a necessity. It makes you comfortable in your own skin. It kills the crazy side effects of loneliness, such as feeling unwanted, feeling uncomfortable in your own skin etc. Exercising also consumes your time therefore it cuts down the amount of time you spend meditating on how lonely you are.
Thirdly, GET ACTIVE. When we have a great amount of free time, we mainly use it to think. Our thoughts sometimes are misleading. Your thoughts will open so many doors for certain topics you’re thinking about. For instance, just thinking about relationships can lead to you think about past relationships, to making you realize how much singleness sucks, to feeling as a loner alone and unwanted, to being governed by loneliness and making horrible decisions. Being active allows your mind to be free of your issues. It clears your thoughts of your misery. Doing activities with friends, going out, doing things that keep you from falling into boredom where your mind will go wondering and slap you with the worst
Most importantly, GET IN TUNE WITH GOD. When you have a relationship with GOD through Christ, you understand that the spirit of GOD dwells in you. You understand that you are truly loved and GOD is always there for you. Knowing you’re a beloved son or daughter of GOD will beat loneliness on the head. The feeling of feeling unwanted, being uncomfortable with you, making decisions out of desperation and so on all slowly die. Getting in tune with GOD will open the door for you to learn how to love yourself and do the rest. It will make you feel comfortable in your own skin and understand that you have the best company in the world; GOD.
Those are major ways you can conquer loneliness, if not at least tame it. But I believe if you are doing your best practicing these things it’s more than possible.
Another thing that can help cure your loneliness is forgiveness. Often people pull themselves into loneliness because their unforgiving heart causes them to let no one into their lives. You must find freedom. Peace and joy has to be found and kept for you to beat loneliness properly.