Love seems to be and to most people, evidently is, the reason the world goes round. The cycle continuously repeats itself: find a partner, be with a partner, lose a partner, find a partner, be with the partner, etc and even if we aren’t personally involved in the cycle, all aspects of relationships are discussed daily among us. Beside the population of bitter folks who have been devastated by relationships and those who are simply seeking non-committal relationships, such as sexual relationships (one night stands) and so forth, everyone wants the find the perfect mate, the perfect relationship and a great marriage. However, most don’t know how to go about it and often end up in bad relationships, relationships with no purpose. Nowadays many are recovering from the wrong relationships, so many heartbroken, abused and used. Why are we mainly seeing the negative outcomes of relationships? Why do we fall into bad relationships?
Impatience is the main reason behind this question. We are very impatient when it comes to finding the right companion. We would rather date around to see if we could land on the right one instead of waiting on the perfect timing GOD has planned for all of us to bump into our future spouse. Society has made many believe that love is self-seeking when in reality it’s far from the truth. With the idea that it’s self-seeking, many rush into relationships for various reasons: looks, similarities, or because they see character traits that are different from the previous partner. People rush into relationships for any reason beside the fact that they know it’s right and that it will work out until death separates them. Most decide to enter relationships without thinking long term and without considering the destruction it might bring to them or their partner emotionally if it doesn’t work out. They just want to be with someone and hope that someone is right.
Everyone wants to be loved right but not everyone willing to wait for the right love. -Pierre Alex Jeanty
Emotions play a very important role when it comes to bad relationships. Many are uninformed about the bad decisions emotions can fuel, especially when it comes to relationships. Loneliness, lust, jealousy, hurt, insecurity and many more can force you to rush into the wrong relationships. If you let your emotions govern you then they will take you down the wrong path. Everyone who is single feels lonely at times and lust after someone from time to time. However, not everyone respond to those emotions in a proper manner. Instead of practicing self-control and training themselves to operate outside emotions and feelings when it comes to important decisions, they choose to let their emotions lead them, and consequently live in regret later. Emotions often camouflage themselves as wisdom, and instead of doing what’s right, we listen to our emotions and do what we hope is right. Insecurity can make you feel that every relationship you get into was the perfect choice. It is very essential to know yourself, your weaknesses and figure out exactly why you’re entering a relationship.
Being eager to move on, which also can fall under both impatience and emotions, is very important as well when it comes to this topic. Once a relationship ends many are often anxious to move on and move to something better or “ON TO THE NEXT” as most will say it. Rushing to move on often causes many to fall into the wrong relationships. Some who move on are running away from the hurt and pain they downloaded from their previous relationship, some move on as a prideful act. They move on to compete with their ex, to prove that they can do better, and to show they are better without them. Rarely does quickly moving on result to a great result. Moving on because the right one came into your life is great but most move on for the wrong purpose. It is very essential to know why you’re moving on and take time knowing who you’re moving on to.
Relationships are taken lightly nowadays. We date for any reasons, relationships have become a hobby; that is one of the reasons why so many are hurt and torn in the name of love. Love gets accused for so many bad relationship decisions. It is wise to focus on GOD and let him lead you to the right one. Through focusing on your relationship with Him you will become patient, which in the process develops self-control, preventing you from walking into the wrong relationships.